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Brian Fanzo: ADHD is My Superpower

ABOUT THIS EPISODE

ADHD. When many people hear this, they are either confused as to what it is or how it affects people. What if you thought about it differently? What if you thought it was a superpower?

In this power episode, Brian Fanzo joins Glenn Pasch to discuss what his journey with ADHD has been and how through understanding and resilience, it truly has been a blessing.

Brian Fanzo who has created his own footprint online as well as consults for Fortune 500 companies continues to be an evangalist on never allowing perceived handicaps limit your portential. 

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About Brian Fanzo

Brian Fanzo is a digital futurist keynote speaker who translates the trends of tomorrow to inspire change today. His customized and personalized programs showcase real-world stories and examples of forward-thinking people and businesses. He teaches companies of all sizes how to leverage technology in real time in order to engage their customers at the right time.

Brian has a gift for bringing people together online and offline. He has worked in 76 countries, highlighting his passion for change, collaboration, and technology.

Brian is currently the Founder of iSocialFanz, which has helped launch digital and influencer strategies with the world’s most iconic brands like Dell, EMC, Adobe, IBM, UFC, Applebee’s, and SAP. Brian has been recognized as a Top 20 Digital Transformation Influencer; a Top 50 Most-Mentioned User by CMOs on Twitter, and a Top 25 Social Business Leader of the Future by The Economist. His followers on social media and podcast downloads rank in the hundreds of thousands, resulting in Brian being an influencer for 19 of the Fortune 100 companies.

Connect on Linkedin with Brian or on his website https://www.isocialfanz.com/

About Glenn Pasch:

"Everyone finds themselves in charge at some point in their lives. Yet many of us lack the skills to generate consistent results. My goal is to help you learn the skills to adapt and grow in your personal and business life.”

Glenn Pasch is CEO of PCG Digital, a full service digital marketing agency that specializes in helping businesses create and deliver customers raving, recommending & returning for more.

He is author of 2 books including "The Power of Connected Marketing" and has spoken and educated audiences throughout the US and internationally.

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When you hear the word or the lettersadhd what comes to mind, I know that there are a lot of people who sufferwith this and are diagnosed with this and they struggle. I know that one ofmy sons has a slight case of this and he does have some challenges, butoverall he's just moving through the world and I couldn't be more proud ofhim. But what, if you thought about it differently? What if you thought havingADHD was a super power that could actually help you, if you understood itand harnessed it? Well, that's the conversation that I'm having in thispower episode with Bryan Fan Zo for many. He is truly successful.International Speaker well known content, creator, business owner socialmedia expert. I mean you, look at his life and you'd, say wow, but when he shared his journey and howthis has led him to be more productive once he understood it. I think this issuch an impactful episode to help so many. So, let's dive into this powerepisode of urine charge conversations that park change with the one in onlyBrian Fan Zo. You mentioned your Adhd and one of thethings that I have a lot of respect for you're, very open with that. How it'syour super power, more and more people are sharing moreabout themselves, honestly, sort of that again that behind the scenes, oneof the things I've always loved about your content, I mean even you're, setup right behind you. You know it's not it's! It's! Here's! All the pies! If Iturn this way, I have a green screen. O here's my board over here or you know,you've done the GOPRO and all over, and I think that allows people to see whatreally it means to be a creative person. So same thing with this with your Adhd,why did you decide to share that and how was it impacted, other people orthe feedback that you've been getting from people because you're so openabout it? Well, I thank you for bringing that up.You know is something important and a driving force for me. You knowinteresting enough. I was diagnosed at thirty one years old, so it was nineyears ago that I was diagnosed. I remember the day like it was yesterday.I know the clothes I was wearing. I now where I parked my deep in the parkinglot like. That was that, because there was a day for me that I went fromfeeling like I was broken for most of my life to just feeling like I wasreminded that I was different and when I say that it's I was extremelysuccessful, post college schooling, it was very tough for me and I couldn'tever figure out why I people would say imagine if you applied to yourself andI was like- I was trying as hard as I could and couldn't solve. Some of thesethings that existed and so being diagnosed was a big. It was a big. It'sprobably on the only times in my life, I felt a weight lifted off of me like Iremember that feeling, but I will say there wasn't like. Okay, now I'm goingto go change the world. With this...

...conversation it was actually threeyears later, I was on stage, and I D really not talked about my Ahduc at alllike it was like. I was medicated. I understood I started to be a little bitmore into the mental health space. You know from a from like trying tounderstand its role with technology, but I was actually giving one of thelargest key notes. I've ever given my entire life, I was at a Amazon webservice is the AWS event in Muscone inside of San Francisco, and after mysixty minute cenote, I was doing a kind of a Qa with the audience, and so oneasked wow. You are like really your energy, you talk fast, you have a lotof things going on, but I can't get enough like you must have adhd orsomething- and I was like the person's question like from the audience and Iremember being like well. Actually I do. I was diagnosed a couple o years agoand I realized that it now impacts every part of my life, but it's alsothere's ways that I'm turning into my superpower and part of my greatness arethe things that adhd enables, and you know- and I went on and asked a couple.Other questions are answered, a couple, other questions and then afterwards youknow after go off stage, ERE's a line of people that are waiting for you. Youknow, I remember, I give a sixteen Aquino that I thought it was reallyreally well designed. I would say eighty five percent of the people thatcame up afterwards talked about my answer, mentioning Ahd, and it wassomeone that had a daughter with dyslexia, someone that actuallystruggled with autism and she didn't want to tell anyone around her, and Iremember and the day actually about. I was four people left in the line andthere's this lady. I could see her like. I was talking to somebody. I could seeher the next person to talk to me and she was on her phone on face time and Iremember feeling like that's kind of rude, like you're waiting in line andtalk to me and you're on like this wore like awkward right and so like thatperson I was talking to you left and I walked on was like ma'am. Do you wantme to skip you and come back she's like no? No no she's, like I have my son onface time, and I just told him what you shared about your adhd on stage andhe's going through some things he's twenty one years old and he's decidedthat he doesn't want to go to his college classes anymore, because he'sashamed by s, some of the the things that that existed. He has to deal withanxiety and a couple things and I end up grabbing a phone, and you know itwas very awkward for him because he's like Mom Y. U H, twenty one year oldkid! What has his mom like handing his phone to some random speaker kid? Youknow, and I just like kind of had a normal conversation and asked him acouple questions. He asked me a couple questions and at the end he was justlike he's like, but why? Why are you like putting it out there, and I waslike well honestly for me, the more open I am about it, the less power itgives others to hate on me for it or to judge me, and ultimately, it allowspeople to better understand the things that I'm going through and in manycases gives them permission to admit what they're going through, and Iremember him I kind of like nodding his head, and I just said something youknow is very casual at the end, I was like tell you what I'll include it inevery intro for every time. I take the stage, if you're willing to take afresh approach to how you look at this and make sure that you're not lettingthis one limitation prevent you from showing up, and he said yes of course,and and since that day, so since that day, I've put it into my pro. You knowit's been part of my my you know my bio...

...and someone introduces me on stage, butit really was the last three years that I kind of leveled it up, probably alevel that most people are seeing now and a lot of that had to do with themore I shared about my adhd. Not only that I did it help others kind of admitthe things they have going on, but it allowed those that, like might look atthings that are going on in my life as like me, like Bryan. Why aren't youapplying to my text like? I know that you saw the text you're on twitter oron instagram you're, not replying well for me like the way that our adhdbrains work. Part of it is it's not that I don't look at that as a priority.It's just that my brain doesn't stack tasts. Everything is an even plain, andso when other things come up, it just pushes things along and so there'sother things could be basic and mundane, but just the way, the way that brainworks, and so three years ago I kind of startedleading into a Moor and then about eighteen months ago my middle daughterwas diagnosed adhd and Dyslexia, and that was a whole nother. You know I gotto see it through. I Dad's eyes. I also got to see it through well what if Iwas diagnosed at her age? What would I have wanted? How can I approach that?And that meant a lot to me and truthfully, I haven't really sharedthis much publicly yeah, but it's something that it's coming out is basedon going through that with my daughter, I went through testing for dyslexia andwas diagnosed now with just lexy myself and the interesting part of that is I'ma host in MC for some of the biggest events in the world and part of thething I learned for years was: I struggle pronouncing some people's lastnames and what I did was. I came up with my own way where I would go tothem and say: What are your friends call you? What's a nickname, I want tointroduce you by that and they everyone always thought that was me hyperpersonalizing. Really it was me. It was me covering for something that Istruggled with right. I was like it was a coping mechanism that, like everyoneI introduced, I always use a slang or their nickname, because then I didn'thave to mess up their last name, and so that interesting part of that for meand where we're at today- and I think the pandemic taught us this more thananything else right like no Boer matter. What your job title is no matter howmuch money you make for a living. It's not going to stop your kid from walkingbehind your zoom call right. It's not going to it's not that, like the humancondition that exists around like we all have those things that are going on,and so I think the beauty where we're at right now and where Ahd shows up forme was that I don't need people to stop or to change everything to work with me,but if, if they understand how I work best- and I understand how you workbest and we can meet in the middle, I believe that's how we can all look atall of the things in our lives. Like my my main focus for it now is I wanteveryone to look at their vulnerabilities that they have andshift their mindset rather than thinking. It is a vulnerability thinkof it. What things does that vulnerability in power that only I cando and it's a you know it's a beautiful space ran. I think mental health as apriority right now is such a refreshing thing. I grew up in a house that youknow medicine mental health. You know none of those things were everdiscussed or you know existed yet. My...

...daughters know at won forty in theafternoon, there's time for daddy to take a second dose of that or all like.They know that in like in the conversation, because I want them toknow that I know I am not perfect and things like that exists so yeah. For me,IT'S A it's a beautiful like arena where we're at and and ultimately Ithink, the reason I'm so ave- and you know loud about it- is less about theADHD. But it's more about hey. I just want to give everybody permission to bebe okay and be proud of who they are, and that includes the things that areor donabit now and and what's really wonderful about that is my youngest sonsame thing diagnosed to Adhd and dyslexia and you know, he's doing fine,but you know once you unlock that he would then all of a sudden they go. Ohand my oldest one we tested because once we tested the youngest one fordislike, who we noticed the older one was having and all of a sudden and what I lovedabout what you said it was it was. It made sense all of a sudden. Yourealized why you struggled you know like he was saying. Oh, that makessense why it was so hard and he's in a student, and they were saying. Do youknow how hard it is with what he has to be able to do that, and so I would talkto him. He says wow, you know, I don't know, I just kept doing it figuring itout. Now, all of a sudden he'll say it. Oh I'm dyslexic, and but it waspermission to say. Oh, that was hard, but, more importantly, now they'regetting strategies to help them move more ward. To be able to do that. So Ithink you to your point, the more that you talk about it and the other thing II really loved about it. Is You give it less power over you? When you talkabout it, you know it's like m m right now. In My. If I talked about it, thenyou can't think of it because it doesn't bother me, so you look sillydoing that, but I think and I've seen the reaction to yourreally. You know your strength and willingness to stand up there and andbe that person that other people can look at and be able to say well if hedid this look what I can do and more importantly just to have that impact tosay we all have something so call what it is and move on figureout the strategy- and I think that's just incredibly incredibly admirablewhen I and when I saw that- and so I wanted to touch base on that one,because thank you personal to me, but I see the passion that you have it foryou as well, so and and I'll sit just re quill just throw on there. I hadsomeone this past week, one of the biggest name, people that I am even inthe circle of in the industry that I've looked up to for years. Send me adirect message via twitter and said: Hey: Can I go the phone with you and Iwill tell you was one of those moments of we're sure, of course, what we havethe discussion and- and she opened up, that she was diagnosed with some autismand she's, going through some things that, and I will tell you the the feeling that the information sheshared with me and how the fact that...

...someone had turned her on to myopenness with adhd before she went through the testing and that connectionto like. Oh Hey, there are people that are owning it that are successful in. Ilove that you mention with yours with your son. You know that the the reasonI believe a lot of this is also coming to light was there are a lot of thingsthat were misdiagnosed or assumptions right like I was the youngest senior VPever in a company of Twenty Housen people in a government contractor andwhen I was diagnosed I was it still was like the Oh, my God goodness, likeimagine all the things that I to the point of me, having a change the way Isaid people's last names. Are you almost develop these coping, but I willalso say you know: I'm a Busie, I'm all for business right and people willoften ask and I've had this discussion a lot on Brian. Your Adhd. Do you thinkit like makes things worse or harder, like people are going to judge and- andI know that people are probably going to a judge and there- maybe people thatwill, if there's equal grounds and they're like Oh, you know, I'm gonnahave Brian might need you know there might be some more thing. I'm okayunderstanding that, but I will say for me the conversations the connections that it'sopened up by simply just explaining the things I'm going through have been lifechanging and like that phone call. This past week- and I mean she broke down intears- and this is someone that I hold on like the highest of all high pelpedestals and and we're going to we're going to do the story together. Shewants me to we're going to do a piece of content together on it. But for meit was, I even told her then was like. I won't tell anyone that you called orthat this conversation happened like I want you to go on your own journeyshe's like no she's, like don't mention my name yet until we put on a piece ofcontent on it and like make something on it, but she's like no. That you'vechanged the way that I'm even going through this to understand the way tolook at it, and I mean for me like in, like my like the why I'm doing all ofthis was that phone call alone right. There was something that I would have Iwished. I had someone to call nine years ago, when I was diagnosed, I justsaid: Hey you got these things going on, you have to own it and so yeah. I justwant to show that because like because I think also in this, like world ofbusiness, we're at right now there are a lot of things that you have to do.Risk first reward right like what's the risk of me sharing this about me.What's the rewards of me sharing and I think oftentimes rewards, we sometimeslook at the rewards and like the well, people are going to better understandme individually or or no now, I'm you know if I don't reply to an emailsomeone's going to give me a little bit more grace, but I think the rewards islike that human aspect like that, like just like that, someone that I wasthere for someone that I didn't even know knew why it was right. Many wayslike to me: that's the beauty of what we're doing on line like even you shareright there about your kids and getting them both tested right. There are. Alot of people are like, oh well now, if you are getting them tested. If, ifGlens is looking at that, maybe I need to go back and approach that, becauseit's not about everything, we've done up until this day being wrong. It'sjust. We are at a place now where we can approach things differently and wecan go at t them in a way that maybe...

...we'll shift a dialogue, because ourschools in our corporate world are broken when it comes to setting up forneuro drivers. Success Right. They are not built for that at all right now andI don't believe they will be until we move the conversation into the PublicForum because they, I don't blame them for not being built for near diversity,because if you were noro diverse, which is like for those that don't you knowit's all of the different things from autism to Dyslexia, to anxiety to adhdthe ER. All of the the norter concept is that your brain just worksdifferently, yeah and why I do differently, I yeah and and for me,like I mean I'm a very emotional person right and I'll just show this lastpiece like I was a kid I played college hockey. I was very successful in sports.Every sport I played in high school in I tried out for a team. I made it, butI was never the best. I was always, I would always say like I was probablythe smartest on the floor. I could see the most right and now I know why, butI was one that if a coach yelled at me, I took it so personally I would startcrying right. I would tell you I'm a college hockey player on the bench. MySophomore Year were undefeated and the coach Berates me about my position andI just start bawling like full on tier. So we all know that locker room is cry.Baby Fan Zo like you and but for me the tears were how I I because I tookeverything personally but then I was always the one that would be able tosit with it. Look at the coach and go put me out there I'll prove you wrongthis time. I would jump out, and I learned now looking back, there are alot of people that have that same like rage, rejection, sensitivity, disorderlike I have that are very emotional, but they have not got to a place wherethey're comfortable without letting it externally exist to or the amount ofkids. Today the amount of people today that take that and personally go sit bythemselves and struggle. You know in those dark closes of dark rooms. For mewhen I started just like kind of like leaning, Hey, it was just who I am andwhat I was all about. The idea of that now like if I could just go back in newand college, Hey Brian, the there parts of your brain like an I, we did a brainscan. My parts of my brain are flipped and a part of my brain that usuallywould trigger for someone to take in that feedback and take that from like ayou know, a responsive is where my emotions are set, and so, like mycrying is me me accepting an it's nothing, I'm doing wrong right rightnow of times I was told as a kid suck it up. Bryan boys don't cry in thebaseball field, Brown you got to be kidding, I was I was taken home and itwas. It was not no fault of anyone that was doing it at the time but like forme like. That is like the example of like understanding. Now, if we givepeople permission to understand themselves in those moments, you won'tgo into those dark closets. You will kind of accept that, and and for me, ifI can, if just sharing this once in one podcast, one episode impacts one person,you know I feel like you know, everything has been worth it no and,and I think the conversation and you are standing there and my understandingnow you know it's just an idea. If youthink about it, just from a very simple...

...level or the way I think about it- isthat you know it's like a computer, his brain processes, informationdifferently than someone else's, and that's okay, because within you know, if we stop with the labelslike that's bad well, no, not really, because when I see other people who nowI know have that, there's some of the most productive, focused individualslike they'll, sit there and they'll. Do the research and they'll get it done,but in this other arena they might be a little more awkward where, on the flip,you're really great in this one. But you struggle over here. So it's gettingaway from the labels of good or bad just starting to put your arms around.What does this person need to be successful? They need a little moretime. They need a l or they need some reminders. This person needs you to pack them on the back thisperson. You re right. I think that's where your. What you were saying isbusinesses in schools, because it's still built on a factory mentality. Ifwe need everybody to be doing it sort of the same way, because it's easier tomanage thousandth, whatever size, classroom or business, I have a team offorty people. I can't worry about everybody's little, but that's really what leadership Ithink is going to have to evolve into to understand those people, becausegreat leaders do understand that and they do give the people that space tounderstand that. I don't talk to Brian First thing in the morning, because ifI bother him he needs to, he needs to set his day up or this other person. IfI don't say good morning to them, they think I'm mad at them and they'remassuet for the whole day right. That's really what we have to get to, but Ithink the more that especially people who are viewed assuccessful, and I that's again why I have suchadmiration for what you're doing, because people will look at you and say:Oh he's got it made. Look at that because they're looking at the external,they don't know one the struggles that you've gone through and then now all ofa sudden, you unlocking that to go. Oh that's why it was a pain in the ass incollege now and now you're going okay. Now Ican think, but I would challenge- and this is we're always looking inhindsight two thousand and twenty. If you had been giving that those thingsat early college or early on, would you be the person you are today rely notprobably yeah you're right, you know you got to look at it and say well. Ifso, then I'd be somewhere else and then yeah, maybe I would be having an impact,but maybe I would have stayed in that military job forever and not challengemyself and that would have been great, but look at the impact that you'rehaving right now, one for all the people who listen to your content. Foryourself for your family, I mean it's easy to look in hindsight. We thinkthat if we change it will be where we are today, but just better an I alwaysgoing. You probably wouldn't be here, and so that's something so again. It'sI tell you it's some like four years to go from. Why did no one tell me that WY, what would my life be different to...

...wow? All of that allowed me to get towhere I'm at right and- and I would say that the two people that I've beenthrowing out a lot Samon biles gymnast, you know you know and Michael Phelpsare both adhd diagnosed. They are both been medicated since they were youngand when you look at success, you look at drive motivation. You knowcommitment, you know a lot of the things that often times were like. Oh,you can't have this because you're successful you're driven you'reaccountable, they had people around them that like took over. You knowthings that, like hey, if I struggle with this, this is something that Ineed someone else to help me with, and I think for anyone that's like in thisdialogue. I love that the idea that we do have to approach things as not goingback but being like. Okay, all of this happened for me to get to her and nowwhat can we do with this moving forward? And I think it's about me forwardabsolutely because that's the Kay, we have a tendency to look backwards andsay well. Why did I have to go through this struggle in instead of saying I amwho I am today through that struggle now that I've realized this? What can I do to move my life forward,my families, but also to help others, because you know, if, if to your point,if I could standing on stage, inspires one person if I share, you know what mychildren go through and that allows someone else to go. Oh Wow, this is howyou did that. I mean, I think, that's where we had. We have a responsibilityto share that message out, especially if we're in a position as you arestanding on stages in front of people that is probably having as much impactas anything that you can help people with technology, because really one ofthe things that you always say is you're connecting the people and yourfocus on the people. You know it could be hey folks, one ofthe other things is a company you got to focus on is focusing on your people.In this way I mean it's really amazing. Well, I hope you got a lot out of thatepisode. I know I did just that conversation with him. You know made methink male I'd love to be able to, and I know he will. I ask him as to havehim talk to my kids to understand that this is not something to look at as anegative that it can be useful if you understand it and embrace it and lookat it through that Len. So again, thank you, Bryan for being so open and honestand sharing, and please connect with him. As you said, I social fans with aZ. You can get him on, that's where he ison all social media outlets, where you can just type in Brian Fans, others,and only one out there and please connect with them. He will definitelyreach out with you. So again, please make sure that you do subscribe to thepodcast on happle or if you are an android user who or on spotify meansthe world to me that you spent some time today. Please share this episodeout. I know a lot of people who do...

...struggle or know someone who has adhd.This could be very beneficial and helpful to them. So thank you so muchfor your attention, as they say at the end of every episode, you're in charge,but now Brian gave you a few more tools to help you become more successful,both personally and professionally. Thank you so much and I look forward toseeing you on the next episode.

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